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Do you want the choices you make to improve your life? Do you want the ability to be in a strong position to roll with the punches?
There are so many little things that help me, and I want to share these with you. Don?t be overwhelmed or feel like it?s a big chore list. Look at it as stepping stones on a path to your fantastic life.
That’s why I have called my series of articles, Life’s FUNdaMENTAL! We need to put the fun back into life, and look after our mental well being.
Here are some of my favourite guidelines. These days, I don?t have to think so hard about trying to achieve these, as most of them are an embedded way of life, and without much effort, the same will happen for you.
Consider what you would like to achieve. Think about the characteristics you admire in other people. Are these people happy, successful, friendly, confident and assertive? Do these people know how to have fun?
Success doesn?t necessarily mean that you have loads of material things. People with flash cars and fancy clothes etc may only mean that they have a lot of debt. People love to know ?how? to do things. That?s only step 1. Step 2 is taking action. Understand that action means results.
The biggest thing about these ideas is that they will only work for people who are willing to help themselves. At the end of the day, the only person who will help you is you. Some things may feel right, and other things may not. So just take from my thoughts what feels right for you.
One of my biggest lessons is to learn to love? Especially love yourself. Fall in love with yourself, even! This isn?t meant to be dirty or sleazy. Become the type of person that you would want to fall in love with.
I bet you have a great smile. Use it frequently. However, it must be genuine. When you smile at someone, it could actually turn their life around.
Become genuine. Unless you really do care about how someone is, be careful that you aren?t asking ?How are you?? when you aren?t interested in the answer.
Dress for success. Remember back when you were in love, or you knew you would run into someone cute? Remember how you would take a bit more care with your appearance incase you ran into that someone? Keep that in mind for when you know you are going to be dealing with other people.
You don?t have to get dressed up to the nines, however, you may want to reassess your wardrobe, make sure your hair is clean, look after your nails and teeth etc. Before you go out, clean your teeth and put on anti-persperant deodorant.
Make the most out of everyday in life. You live in a fantastic free world. Make the most of looking at your opportunities. Your life, no-one else?s, will be your centerpiece. Make it a fact. Your life will evolve around you and your family, and you?ll enjoy doing this. No maybes, end of discussion!
Take pleasure in the little things that don?t cost money. Go to the beach, to the park or do some fishing nearby if it?s available. If you have kids, pack them up and take them with you. Enjoy doing activities with the kids and your friends at home. Join in and play with them. Activities such as playing video games and board games are cheap and fun.
Play a bit of soccer, a cricket, softball or even go on a bike ride. Do something energetic. It doesn?t have to be every day but it does have to be regular.
Get yourself a theme song. This piece of advice comes from watching an episode of Alley McBeal and I find it to be incredibly helpful. I use all sorts of songs to help lift me. Generally I listen to party and rock songs for cleaning and walking, and easy listening for relaxing and chilling out.
Indulge your senses. Play your favourite music, light incense, read motivational material. Create a space at home for you and keep it looking nice. If you don?t have a lot of room, use your bed / bedroom. Keep your bed made. Put your rubbish in the bin and clear away your dishes. This is your sanctuary.
Soak up information. Keep reading about creating wealth, investing, and changing who you are. It may seem strange at first but don?t give up.
Turn off the news. Who really needs to know about bad news every single day? How does that help you?
Laughter really is a great medicine. When I laugh, I usually end up with tears running down my cheeks. Enjoy laughter. Allocate a few dollars for a couple cheap movies every now and then that are just plain fun or funny.
Discover Your Spirituality. What are your spiritual beliefs? It should not matter which type of religion that you seek guidance from. The point is to share love, and maybe some of your time with like-minded people.
Create and use your own little book. An exercise book will do. When you have time, get yourself some colours for inside, and cover it. This is your own book, and for you only. Keep it by your bed with your pencil case. Write lists. Writing, and reading what you’ve written reaffirms your goals and dreams.
Understand that money isn?t good nor is it evil. It?s money. What you do with it, is what may be good or evil. Also, it doesn?t matter how much money that you earn, the single starting key to your wealth is to stop spending.
Think of your body as an engine. Engines perform well on the good stuff, and splutter on the crappy stuff, just as brain and body activity is reliant on nutrition and exercise.
Endorphins make you happy and give you a natural high. Exercise releases this chemical. Endorphins can also be released after a fit of laughter, sex, or even when you experience danger. Work your butt off on a fast walk for half an hour and see how you feel. You will feel happy and strong. You will feel like you can achieve anything.
Don?t stress about the house work, it will still be there later. Remember though, when you take pride in your surroundings, it feeds your positive cycle because it makes you feel great. So if house work isn?t your thing, stay on top of the basics. List what you?d like to achieve in your daily list. You could also look at house work differently. Think of sweeping, mopping etc as exercise.
Be positive in all of your comments and talk. This will ultimately determine your outcomes. Your subconscious picks up on key words and doesn?t know right or wrong. It reprograms the positive or the negative.
Instead of saying ?I hate not having a car?, learn to say, ?I would love to have my own car?.
Now the sentence basically means exactly the same thing, and ordinarily would mean the same result, but that?s not true.
One sentence reaffirms negative programming, and the other reaffirms positive programming. So you are either teaching your brain ?hate car? or ?love car?. Your brain works in amazing ways. Put this into practice before you think or say your thoughts aloud.
Listening and talking skills are vital in all relationships imaginable. Don?t talk for the sake of it. Too much talk turns people away. One of the most important skills in relationships, whether it be personal or work related, is the ability to listen. That does not mean, waiting for your turn to talk!
Learn to say NO! People will stop wearing you down, if you start saying no. Trust me; you do need to be selfish at times. I?m not saying that you need to be horrible. Just don?t be used and controlled by other people. They will learn to live with other options if you say no.
Ask for help. Those of you who are single parents, or unemployed, most governments lostening,are most helpful. Use their information, and their systems to your advantage. Enquire about training, and various courses you can do to get your life back on track.
Talking allows you to sort through your thoughts aloud and can make a big difference. If you?re not close to family and friends, or believe they may be too bossy or judgmental, look up support groups in your local phonebook or on the internet.
You catch more flies with honey than vinegar. When enquiring about anything, speak confidently, and in a friendly manner. Use your manners. You may be really amazed at how much easier it is getting the information and help that you need.
Avoid placing blame. Using terms such as always and never is usually an exaguration, and immediately puts the other person on the defensive. Using this sort of terminology rarely resolves conflict, nor does it help you get the outcome that you desire.
Let it go. It’s quite likely that you have been hurt deeply in the past by a friend, loved one or family member. Learning to accept that it’s happened, is a big step to resolving your feelings about the event.
Focus your energy on how you are going to fix your life today and tomorrow.
You can only change you. As you rediscover yourself and the positives, don?t feel hurt if others don?t share your new focus and enthusiasm.
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